Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of girls don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage girls widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something boys do, but girls don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young women to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with a man (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with men). Nearly all teen boys, on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young women are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many girls give their boyfriends oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the guys to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that women need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex.
Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide (via grrrlstudies)
Well that’s dumb. I feel like if anything girls should masturbate more when they’re younger, it’d make them realize that most guys (myself included) haven’t the slightest idea what we’re doing and they could probably do a better job themselves. It’d free them from feeling like they need a guy to assist, they’d become more comfortable with their bodies and would focus more on the connection with someone during sex than their partner just being a vehicle for orgasms (admittedly guys are far more guilty of this attitude on the whole but we’re kinda a lost cause anyway). Finally, if a guy is fine with putting his fingers or penis inside you, he’s probably down to go down on you as well; don’t feel insecure otherwise you shouldn’t be sharing a bed. It’s also pretty enjoyable to venture down there, at least from my perspective.
My god, what would women do without men telling them it is dumb they don’t masturbate? What would we do without men telling us what to do with our sexuality?!?! What would we do without men telling us not to feel insecure over our bodies?!? Like your little paragraph will magically make us feel okay about ourselves. You are probably patting yourself on the back for being so fucking enlightened. Your whole thing reeks of male privilege. It pisses me off to no end.
This is why we don’t even try to be nice anymore
He was just being so nice calling women dumb. Cut the crap.
Look ladies! A man says if we’re insecure, we shouldn’t be having sex! Oh, thank GOODNESS a man came along to undo centuries of gender equality and slutshaming. All of my insecurity has suddenly vanished and turned into powerful desires to explore my female sexuality! I’m so glad there are men around to tell me when and when not to feel insecure about sex/my body/myself. THANK YOU, MAN WHO COMMENTED! YOU HAVE LIBERATED ME!
Don’t you just love when men come in and say “you don’t need to be insecure, stop being so hysterical?” It just solves ALL our problems!