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Female bodies as “distracting”: Another quick thought on dress codes & sexism

jessicavalenti:

I’ve been amazed at the number of comments that just don’t get it over at my post at The Nation on the way dress codes can discriminate against women. (And the way school administrators and faculty can use said code to sexually harass young women.)

What’s been truly interesting to me is the way that commenters continue to make the same argument that Stuyvesant’s principal did: that the way some young women dress is “distracting.” That men can’t help but look at these young women and their supposedly scandalous attire - and that this overwhelming desire to ogle young women means that school work isn’t being properly paid attention to. 

This “distraction” standard for a dress code sets up a model in which the default student we are concerned about - the student whose learning we want to ensure is protected - is male. It presumes that female students are a distraction to male students’ learning, and therefore it’s young women’s actions that must be policed.

But what about the way that the young women of Stuyvesant are being “distracted” from their studies by a school that harasses and slut-shames? What’s more distracting - glancing at a girls’ legs or being pulled from class, humiliated, and made to change outfits before you’re allowed to learn?

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The man who is horrified at a woman’s “overly exposed” breasts will likely never have to worry about wearing one shirt—one shirt out of a lifetime of shirts—that happens to accidentally set off some random person’s slut meter, because of the way his body just is. And because my breasts are smaller, less visible, less imposing than other women’s breasts—because there’s less boob there—I can feel free to wear the more revealing top without attracting claims of public obscenity. It seems that some women’s bodies are just naturally sluttier than other women’s bodies—and all women’s bodies are naturally sluttier than men’s bodies.

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Exactly.

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I do think there are a great portion of American cis-men who like to pick and choose those parts of gender equality that make their lives easiest and adhere to those only.

For example: She wants to pay for dinner? AWESOME. I can keep my seat on this packed train? FANTASTIC. She wants to have sex four times a night and not hear the word “slut.” GORGEOUS. She wants to be paid what I earn and be treated with respect in the military and go out drinking without worrying about sexual assault? SHUT UP THAT WHINE.

Here’s my deal: Until I’m clear that a cis-man really does see me as his equal, I’m just going to look at his cherry-picking “feminism” as manipulative laziness.

JerseyGrrrl on jezebel. So, so, so, so true. (via shortbreadsh)

Preeeeetttty much how I feel about some male-feminists.

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It is perfectly okay to have multiple sexual partners.

the-pink-godzilla:

Having sex with multiple people does not make you a slut. As long as your partner(s) is/are comfortable with it, have all the damn safe, consensual sex you want. Some people like to have sex without all the baggage that can come with a relationship. Some people prefer to have one partner. It’s their choice based on what they want and what’s right for them and no one has the right to shame someone for choosing what to do with their own love life. 

I mean come on. Sex is awesome. 

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I don’t care how much sex anyone has, how often they do it, or who they do it with. I’m much more interested in the consent, pleasure, and well-being of the participants and the people affected by it. I respect women who are asexual, celibate, monogamous, multi-partnered, or have had more partners than they can recall. I respect women who only have sex after a commitment to monogamy and those who have sex with someone within minutes of meeting them. I respect women who have transactional sex, women who have sex for love, or for any other reason. I know that all of these categories are permeable and that many women move from one to another. And I know that any of these decisions can be made from a place of personal power, choice, and authenticity, as well as from a place of coercion, shame, and disempowerment.

Charlie Glickman (If You Don’t Respect Sluts, You Don’t Respect Women)

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sexreeducated:

Let’s see how many things are wrong with this shall we?

  • Shaming girls for flirting
  • Shaming people for having sex
  • Shaming sex workers for their profession
  • Shaming men for having sex
  • Shaming a woman for being confident sexually
  • Assuming that a double standard does not exist
  • Children doling out sexual advice that way too many people buy into
  • Teens and young adults being forced to assume that the social norm is that they should not want sex but ALSO should not want to ‘just flirt’
  • Claiming that sex with two consensual nonpaying people is tantamount to the ‘shameful’ act of prostitution
  • Claiming that flirting and being sexually attracted to multiple people is tantamount to prostitution
  • Implying that even if you DON’T have sex you will still be viewed as a shameful prostitute.

Did I miss anything?

He really does need to shut the fuck up.

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rudydontstop: thedailywhat: Birth Control Advocacy of the Day: In a direct attack on the GOP’s War on Women, a new project called “Sluts Across America” has been launched to highlight the absurdity of judging those who use birth control “for totally valid, responsible, and mature reasons”; show that supporters of reproductive rights exist everywhere; and re-appropriate and take ownership of the derogatory term “slut.” The site involves a simple interface that asks users to input their location and a reason for supporting access to birth control. It then displays the users’ statements and locations anonymously, under the heading “I’m a slut because…” Here goes: “I’m a slut because caring for kids whilst writing The Daily What would be disastrous.” [thanks, anonymous! ssa] Do it.

rudydontstop:

thedailywhat:

Birth Control Advocacy of the Day: In a direct attack on the GOP’s War on Women, a new project called “Sluts Across America” has been launched to highlight the absurdity of judging those who use birth control “for totally valid, responsible, and mature reasons”; show that supporters of reproductive rights exist everywhere; and re-appropriate and take ownership of the derogatory term “slut.”

The site involves a simple interface that asks users to input their location and a reason for supporting access to birth control. It then displays the users’ statements and locations anonymously, under the heading “I’m a slut because…”

Here goes: “I’m a slut because caring for kids whilst writing The Daily What would be disastrous.”

[thanks, anonymous! ssa]

Do it.

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Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.

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this is an amazing quote

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Essentially, the idea of a “slut” is a myth told to women to keep them in their place. Just as Santa will not actually bring you coal on Christmas if you break a few of the house rules, you will not actually turn into an intrinsically tainted, unpalatable creature if you break one of society’s rules and have sex with one too many men. The word “slut” isn’t a criticism for having too much sex necessarily, but for being a woman: a real, living, breathing woman with quirks, foibles, normal sexual feelings, and personality; and failing to live up to the societal ideal for a woman: the passive, pliable, perpetually innocent, and sexually available Barbie doll.

The Slut Myth  (via ceedling)

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mspurplenew: I have hints, but what is slut shaming? This! 

mspurplenew:

I have hints, but what is slut shaming?

This! 

missdelaney22: Haha this is so cute. ahhhhh I love this!

missdelaney22:

Haha this is so cute.

ahhhhh I love this!

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